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A Break-Up Letter To Fear

To: Fear

cc: Doubt

Dear Fear

If you are reading this it means I finally worked up the courage to send you this letter. Good for me.

There is no easy way to say this but I’m going to go ahead and say it anyway. It’s not you it’s me. Wait. No. In fact it’s not me it’s you. This. Us. Whatever it is we have. We can’t do this anymore. I can’t do this anymore.  I am not happy. I am sick of you and it’s time we broke up. I know we have broken up and gotten back together before. Every time I’ve tried to leave doubt keeps pulling me back, but seriously, Fear this is it! (No M.J). I’m tired of the dysfunctionality. I am breaking up with you. For good. It is the right thing for me. The more I think about it the more I realise we that were never meant to be. We just happened.I am over you silencing me all the time. You like hearing the sound of your own voice and never really bother to hear me out. You constantly disapprove and discourage my goals and efforts. You are openly disrespectful towards my dream team. Not anymore. I have had enough.

I met someone. Her name is Courage. She inspires me, encourages me and dares me to take a leap and reach out for everything that I ever wanted. You on the other hand never believed in me. I don’t get you, but then you don’t get me either. You are always giving me reasons why I can’t. Thanks to courage I know I can. Even though I m still running my race she makes me feel like I have already won. She is the cheerleader of my dreams. She even has me thinking about buying a piece of land. A place I can give my inner nomad a home. I’m tired of running. The coward in me died the night I met her.

So suck on that, Fear. You and I are done. And no I am not interested in ‘talking it over’. My happiness and my dreams can’t be friends with you. I don’t need you in my life. I choose awesomeness. I choose courage. I choose to fly.

I am not going to miss you. I don’t want anything to do with you. This is goodbye once and for all. Or at least that’s what I really, really want. From this day forward you are just somebody that I used to know.



Posted by on April 25, 2013 in Uncategorized


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What Have You Done For Your Dreams Lately?

I was thinking today about how hard it is sometimes to take a chance in life. All of us have experienced times where we’ve just wanted to take a leap, and reach out for whatever it is we’ve always wanted. Yet, something holds us back. Something keeps us from just going for it. Usually, it starts with, “Realistically…” or “I doubt it’ll happen, but…” or “It’s probably crazy, but…” You get the drift. There are so many times we shut ourselves down, tell ourselves “No”, before the idea has even left our lips. Sometimes we are lazy and we tell ourselves “It’s too hard” Most of the time though we are just cowards. We’re too afraid to take that leap of faith and reach out for our dreams. We give fear the deciding vote at the table of life. What is it about the human condition that creates this self-destructive monster, which eats away at your dreams one excuse at a time?

For as long as I can remember I have always wanted to write. It’s something that I have always been passionate about. For the longest time I did not write anything. The reason for this is that I was very good at coming up with reasons not too. I sabotaged myself with pragmatism. Most of my reasons were often of sound logic and made sense, but at the end of the day, these reasons were just a good name I gave to excuses. I was a coward.  When it comes to our dreams most of us are the same. We are too afraid to take that first step to become our better selves. It’s easy to be afraid, and there may be plenty of examples around you to feel so. But just because something hasn’t been done yet doesn’t mean it cannot be done at all. It just hasn’t been done…yet.

The most popular excuse most of us make: “What will people think of me if I decide to pursue this dream that I have?” The tragedy is that people won’t think anything of you if you don’t. Yet they will think the world of you when you succeed and make it. The only failing is not trying. Who cares if you don’t make it? And when it looks like you have failed remember that sometimes a dream broken is dream worth having. There is no expiration date on your dreams. Take a deep breath ….woooosah, pick yourself up, press reset and try again. After all learning it’s not about the fall from grace but the rise from failure. So grab your dreams with both hands and hold on tight, never letting go, even if everyone else around you believes it’s pure folly to do so. If you really want people to believe in you, and support your dreams give them actions and not words. (Unless you are a writer then maybe give them words). What you have done for your dreams already matters more than what you might do some day.

Dream. Believe. Achieve.

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Posted by on April 3, 2013 in Uncategorized


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